For the past 10 years that I’ve spent in the entertainment business, I’ve grown accustomed to people rescheduling meetings 1, 2, 3 even 4 times. Usually, the appointment gets confirmed by both assistants a day prior, but then something peculiar happens – about an hour before, one of the two parties calls to cancel.
It doesn’t even phase me since it happens more often then not, until a friend recently pointed out that it doesn’t happen in any other business, or any other city for that matter. Do people in LA not know how to manage their schedules? Do force majeure style events happen so regularly that we shouldn’t be insulted by last minute cancelations?
The more I thought about it, the quicker I realized that it isn’t even limited to business meetings, but outing with friends as well. An hour before a planned brunch, hike, yoga class, coffee date, it’s still ok to bail. WAS EVERYONE IN LA RAISED BY WOLVES???
And then it dawned on me. This is a city obsessed with “BIGGER, BETTER DEAL.” All plans are technically tentative in case something better comes along. Meetings are canceled with no regard to the other party, as long as the reason may serve you greater in the longer run. Plans with friends can be dropped at any moment if someone more interesting/famous/with bigger tits comes along.
As Stephanie Tanner would say, “How Rude!!!”
When you commit to a meeting or any plans for that matter, don’t say yes unless you mean it. I’d much rather be told no in the first place than strung along until I give up. I go back and forth between thinking it’s like trying to convert to Judaism (where the Rabbi denies you three times to make sure you’re serious), or maybe they’re just not ballsy enough to say no, so they’re torturing me until lose interest. Do they want me to keep rescheduling, or are they hoping I’ll let it go…?
This whole concept feeds right into the stereotype that LA is famous for: everyone is nice to your face, and nasty behind your back. They yes you to death until it actually comes time to pull the trigger.
There is only one sector of the industry that has never canceled on me: the lawyers. Why would they? They’re changing you hourly for the meeting!
What if we all instilled cancelation policies? We can be inspired by airlines, hotels, and medical offices - no returns after 24 hours, non-refundable first night stays! Maybe our assistants will have to start taking an Amex to confirm a reservation…
I have a great idea for a science fiction movie: In a world where everyone actually fulfills their commitments, pigs fly as a young filmmaker attends a meeting with an agent that has never been rescheduled…